It’s very hard to find one good one in a barrel of bad ones.
Thanks for your time and for advice is appreciated.
It’s something that I have been concerned with for a while and since you have daughters I thought I would bring this question to you.
I am a BW and I have a daughter from a relationship with a BM. I don’t see them getting any better years to come and I don’t want my daughter to experience the abuse (physically, emotionally, psychologically) that they bring to the table.
This is a time when only communication can help to bring the relationship back into balance.
Gray further asserts men and women view giving and receiving love differently, how individual actions intended as loving expressions are "tallied up." According to Gray, women and men are often surprised to find their partners "keep score" at all, or that their scoring methods differ widely.
When I wasn’t in a relationship, it was like I was passing time between Mr Unavailables and assclowns, hungry to fill up the ‘vacancy’ left by the previous guy.
I craved love, intensely sought out validation, and privately lived with a black cloud over my head while I outwardly smiled at everyone.
It’s true – I used to live like my only option was whatever guy I was seeing at the time and it was more important to be in a relationship and pursue this feeling of love and validation that I was looking for, than it was to be in a quality relationship.The book has sold more than 50 million copies and, according to CNN, it was the "highest ranked work of non-fiction" of the 1990s, spending 121 weeks on the bestseller list.The book and its central metaphor have become a part of popular culture and the foundation for the author's subsequent books, recordings, seminars, theme vacations, one-man Broadway show, TV sitcom, workout videos, a podcast, men's and ladies' apparel lines, fragrances, travel guides and his-and-hers salad dressings.When I became ill with the immune system sarcoidosis in 2003, I was so distracted by the ‘guy with a girlfriend’ that even though I should have been focusing on my health, I was more interested on focusing on him as my only option! This is how I ended up in a number of half hearted relationships and yawning my way through many dates.It was only when I ditched him that it occurred to me to start fighting for my survival and opening up my options. I don’t think I’ve admitted this before, but the last chunk of my relationship with the guy with a girlfriend, I think I wanted to win more than I wanted him.) is a book written by American author and relationship counselor John Gray, after he had earned degrees in meditation and taken a correspondence course in psychology.