As a reluctant HIV-positive activist, I am often bombarded with the secret misgivings of closeted HIV-positive men from across the country.
No matter how much or how little they know about HIV or how short or how long they have been living with the virus, there seems to be only one singular concern on their mind: They are afraid of being rejected by a potential love interest because of their HIV status. Someone is going to shut you down before they get to know you because you are living with HIV.
We made complex weekday dinners to distract ourselves from the fact that we were both pretty bored with each other.
grown up, because I had never even been tested for HIV at my yearly checkup at Planned Parenthood, where I went for primary care.
Some choose to date less, some choose to keep dating as much as ever.
Some choose to stop having sex, whereas some stay sexually active.
You think that you can charm someone with your personality and dazzle your date with your dashing good looks so much that they just won't be able to let you go, HIV status be damned.
But it doesn’t mean you have to get out of the game. Women make different decisions about what’s right for them.I was living in New York City with a boyfriend I'll call Matt when I was diagnosed with HIV. It was my first steady, long-term relationship, and we did what I used to think of as "grown-up" things.Like having Sunday football parties or fighting in Home Depot about what color to paint an accent wall in our living room.Here are the eight key reasons why this kind of dating isn’t going your way, and more importantly, what you can do to turn things around.1. When it comes to finding that special someone, it’s important to remember that dating is a numbers game.And rather than only joining a few dating apps and sites and therefore only being available to a few people, you should put the odds in your favor by signing up for more so that you can increase the number of people in your dating pool.2. Along these lines, if you want dating apps and sites to work for you, then you have to commit to continually signing in to the app or site, sometimes every day, in order to see and be seen by the greatest number of potential dates.In a word, you have to make the apps and sites a priority if you want them to work in your favor and help you to meet that special person.