People can easily do a reverse look-up on a phone number and see where you live.
Whether their purpose is dangerous or just desperate, you want to steer clear of both of these.
I actually do like this gentleman, which is unusual for me. I figure this is as good a time as any to float a pretty non-controversial theory of how to be successful in dating. Okay, so you know what a Venn Diagram looks like, right? I always ask for the man’s phone number, and offer to call him.Hey Evan, I have recently started chatting with someone on a dating site and he keeps asking me for my phone number. The place where your circles overlap is your relationship. The problem in dating is when you think your circle is the “right” one – even when it doesn’t overlap with anyone else’s circle. Women who ask men if they will commit on Date 1 are not “wrong”, but they are ineffective. You want to “chat with him for a good period of time,” and after “a few weeks of online chatter”, you’ll give him your phone number. However, I’m very uncomfortable giving you my phone number. It’s called the 2/2/2 Rule (two emails on the dating site, two emails off site, two phone calls and then a date).He says he doesn’t use the internet much on weekdays, but I’m reluctant to give anyone my phone number until I have chatted with them for a period of time. This is where I came up with the idea (espoused in Why He Disappeared) of “effective vs. Then, presuming a few phone calls go well, you want to meet him for a safe coffee date at on a Tuesday, so you can have a quick exit strategy if you don’t click. I spend about a half-hour explaining it in my Finding the One Online audio program, which helps women flirt and connect with quality men online.You can give a general idea about where you work and what you do, but don’t be specific about which office building you’re in. It really depends how comfortable you are with the idea of a stranger having your number (and yes they are a stranger).Give a general idea about your hangouts, but not details such as “every Tuesday I take a spinning class at X gym on X street”. I personally do not give my number out anymore unless there has been a first date and there is a potential for a second date.Adult chat lines (phone sex) and tech support are a very common use of premium-rate numbers.